Online therapy in Massachusetts for people spinning on the broken record of imposter syndrome
You’re never enough. Over and over again.
Maybe it's how much you make, how much you do, or how hard you work. Maybe it's someone else telling you that. Maybe it's your own inner voice. In any case, you're suffering—either because you're doing everything you can, or you're struggling to do anything at all. And you feel like a failure.
You’re under pressure to perform, and it’s getting very uncomfortable. “Pressure makes diamonds,” you tell yourself. But there’s a problem with that.
Pressure doesn’t just make diamonds. It cracks them, too.
Everything, and everyone—even you—has limits. And you’re here because it feels like you’re approaching them, but you don’t know exactly where they are. Or you were told you didn’t have any.
What if you could live life at or near the limit, instead of constantly trying to push past it?
Me, finding the limit / Photo: Paul Buckley, IG @thepaulbuckley
The tires on your car only have so much grip. Just before they lose that grip, they tell you—you’ll hear them start to chirp. Chances are, that’s where you are right now, and it’s a frightening place. You’re afraid you’re going to lose that grip completely and spin out… or crash.
The decommissioned Moore Army Air Field in Ayer, Mass. The green line is the course a driver might take around traffic cones laid out for an autocross track.
Wait—so are you saying I just have to accept my limitations?
Absolutely not. You can use your awareness of your limitations to get you around the racetrack of life. In fact, it’s that very chirping of the tires that helps a race car driver know when they’re at the limit—and knowing that limit actually gets them around the track faster.
The same awareness that keeps a driver from crashing, or an athlete from getting injured, is actually what makes growth and improvement possible. Developing that awareness is what I do.
What if you could believe in yourself, and your abilities to grow and improve, without burning yourself out?
Awareness of your limits enables you to set boundaries. Imagine if you established one boundary in your life right now. Maybe it’s one you’ve been dying to set. Maybe you haven’t even given it a thought. In either case, ask yourself:
What would I be able to accomplish?
What would it be like if I wrote the story of my own life?
Who could I connect with more fully, more deeply?
Setting boundaries means changing the status quo—not from the outside, but from within.
Our world is bonkers, and it shaped the way you think:
your childhood,
your traumas,
your experiences at the hands of systems that were inherently unjust.
I will help you question and change the way you think:
your beliefs,
your conclusions,
your hidden agendas you weren’t even aware of.
I will help you turn your suffering into struggling, which ultimately, leads to progress: self-empathy, courage (even when you’re afraid), and healing.